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1996

From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 231:

Good cooking takes time. Pollsters report that the average couple spends twenty minutes a day together. Parents spend 40 percent less time with their children than did parents in the 1950s. Fathers particularly are often unavailable – the average father spends less than thirty minutes a week talking to his children. Ironically, today children need more parental time because they have fewer other adults to rely upon and their world is more complex. Most kids need more adult time and less money.

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 225:

Families teach children their earliest lessons – how to bathe, eat with silverware, tie their shoes and speak their language. Families hold lives together, teach moral virtues and inspire their members to action in important ways. Ideally, the education of the heart is done in families. Ideally, children learn from their families what to love and value. Some parents have the impression that they shouldn’t impose their values on their children. But if parents don’t teach their children values, the culture will. Calvin Klein and RJ Reynolds teach values. Good parents are what Ellen Goodman called counterculture; they counter the culture with deeper, richer values.

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 221:

In the current family-hurting culture, families must do two things to survive: They must protect themselves from what is most hurtful to the health of the family and they must connect with what is good outside the family. These tasks require time and energey, both of which are scare commodities in an era when many parents work long hours at jobs far from their homes. This protection and connection to others will change the culture. Families can be really healthy only when children once again have communities of real people who care about them.

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 179:

Plato said, Education is teaching children to find pleasure in the right things.”

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 158:

It is important for people to receive credit for good work, and criticism can indeed be damaging. But true self-esteem comes from the belief that one is making the world a better place. It’s a by-product of a life lived wisely. In fact, self-esteem, like viewing Halley’s comet, is best accomplished if not looked for directly. Self-esteem cannot be given to one person by another and it cannot be induced by self-hypnosis.

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 157:

Character grows over the lifetime and is influenced by everything. As William Least Heat Moom said, A man becomes his attentions. His observations and curiosity, they make and remake him.”

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 147:

I do encourage clients to read some of the self help literature. For example, I do recommend David Burns’s book Feeling Good and The Guide to Personal Happiness, by Albert Ellis and Irving Becker, for depression. I like Harriet Lerner’s book The Dance of Anger. But before I recommend books, I read them and make sure that they offer good factual information and that they don’t encourage clients to feel like victims of dysfunctional families.

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 145:

As Jeanne Moreau said, Life is tough enough without being unhappy on top of everything else.”

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at page 142:

Simone Weil said, The only real question to be asked of another is what are you experiencing?” We can encourage people to turn off their machines, stop their rushing around and ask this of each other. We can encourage clients to call or write their relatives, to visit with the children on their streets and to invite a troubled neighbor to go for a walk. We can encourage people of different backgrounds to spend time together sharing their experiences. We can encourage rich people to share with the poor and people of different ethnic backgrounds to invite each other for a meal.

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From Mary Pipher, Ph.D., The Shelter of Each Other - Rebuilding Our Families (1996) at pages 132-133:

All stories are not created equal. When our cultural heros are scoundrels and takers we produce scoundrels and takers. When we idolize victims, we produce them. In a healthy society, the main stories are about exemplars. Our culture is filled with such people, but their stories are rarely told…We need more stories of sacrifice, loyalty, kindness and strength through adversity. We become what we tell ourselves that we are.

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